Ever think to yourself that you have nothing to offer….to anyone? Or maybe you know you offer a shoulder for someone to lean on, but never really feel how much that impacts others so then you are still in the camp of people who feel as though they have nothing to offer the world.
I’m a deep thinker, if you haven’t gathered that about me or, if you’ve only recently started to read these weekly blog posts – which, have really gotten deep lately.
And I’m the type of person that needs alone time in order to recharge. I actually crave alone time. Weird, huh? I also find small talk rather difficult, which often leaves me leaving a small talk conversation feeling like I was just misunderstood. Because, when I meet you for the first time – I really would rather know you – tell me something of substance, of interest; something that gives me an indication of who you are on a deeper level – what you stand for, believe in, or value. And to get someone to share that side of them isn’t usually easy and especially on a first-time meeting. They have to look into your eyes and trust you won’t judge them. And most people just don’t feel safe doing that. But, I think we all know someone in our lives who people just seem to spill their guts to; tell their whole life stories to and we ask ourselves…what is it about them that makes people so comfortable doing that?
Over the years, my husband has been that person for many people. Most of these people were met in passing, never to be seen again. But he shared the many stories with me over the years. I think sometimes people just want to feel heard, if even by a stranger. And what a gift my husband has given others. And maybe you’ve been in that situation too – where someone just spills their life story to you, where you don’t get word in edge-wise, but suddenly feel like you’re in a psychologist’s chair and this stranger is lying on your couch. I know my husband doesn’t see this as any kind of gift, but I sure do.
What you offer the world doesn’t have to be this grand thing that yields tangible or monetary rewards. And just because, what you offer others, doesn’t give you those things, what it does give you is joy…..if you choose to look at it that way. My husband can choose to see these instances in his life as an annoyance; an interruption in his day. I don’t feel he ever saw it that way, but rather, just a brief time where he lent his ear to a stranger.
I know many people in my life who have a gift they don’t even know they have. I know someone who knows their job is important, but may not really see the big picture that what she truly gives children is hope, who desperately need it the most. To give anther human being hope – well, it’s a life-changer. Makes me get choked up just thinking about it.
I know someone who is so unbelievably postive, you just have no choice but to be positive when you’re around her. Just being around her makes me a better person.
I have many people in my life, simply by occupation, that have left an impression on me in some way.
I just wish more people knew what they offer the world, just by being here and existing. Have you ever thought about this of the people in your life? Deep, right – so likely not. But do this for me today and tell one person what they have given you or that you’ve seen them give others, on a deeper level that goes beyond a job title.
For example, a really great footbal coach gives young men the know-how on how to make plays happen – building on those technical skills year after year. But what a great football coach really, truly gives young men is self-confidence, the ability for those young men to SEE their own potential, commroditry, and the ability to pick themselves up and dust themselves off.
If only more people saw what they truly offer the world…..
And that’s my deep thought Monday, formerly known as “My Life Monday.” lol! Seriously, maybe I should change it. In my life though, this past week (if you’re really curious), I got to photograph my lovely and talented sister-in-law and the boys in her life. Not to mention, had the long drive there and home to do what I do best – think. Sneak peek will be coming tomorrow more likely on my Facebook page. I even got their old-man cranky dog to look at me! ha!
Until then, think about what YOU give the world. I know there is something – all of us have a gift to give the world. You’re doubting yourself right now that you don’t – quiet your mind long enough and you’ll figure out what it is. Also, bring to light something you see in someone else that they may not see in themselves and TELL THEM. If you actually do this, I’d love to hear from you on how it made you feel and how that person reacted and made them feel. More often than not, people have no idea the impact they have on others until someone tells them. And children are not excluded. A child who values themselves and what they bring to the world is priceless. But they need to be told what that is.
For example, Xavier is a deep-thinker like me. That boy is beyond his years. He offers, even at the age of 9, a different way of looking at things. He’s very accepting of others and has deep empathy towards all living things and people sruggling in the world. Alexandra, our soon-to-be 8-year-old, is very thoughtful and loves creating and giving. She is also very intuitive to the needs of others – even if it’s just a hug. Jozlyn, our spit-fire 5-year-old, brings humor to everything she does. She loves making people laugh and if it’s at her expense, she doesn’t care. When she’s more serious – she very much cares for the well-being of others, even if it’s as simply as covering you with a blanket to make sure you’re warm or bringing water on a hot day while mowing lawn (both girls have done this for me without being asked). And these are things I need to share with my own kids, today….not tomorrow, and not in 10 years. These are things I love about them, that are a part of their character – who they are as individuals.
Who you are is a gift to others in and of itself. No grand exchanges, no frills or applause; just affirmation that you matter to someone. Just sharing those thoughts with someone is a gift.